Language shifts our perception of life’s endless circumstances, and can often be the difference in viewing a certain circumstance as an issue, or an opportunity. I first learned this in 2012 when I was faced with my initial reproductive health opportunity – the precursor to the opportunity I’m currently working through.
When I was told to reframe the circumstances of my health as an opportunity instead of an issue, I thought it was hokey and I resisted. I honestly thought to myself, WTF? Let me be clear, I really resisted. I did not feel like I had been given an opportunity – I was experiencing something that was shifting my entire life, and not in a way that felt good. I felt like everything was in a state of total upheaval. With everything to gain, I began to shift my language, and eventually realized the power of my words.
To get to a place where this language shift worked, I had to take a hard look at my resistance to naming this a “health opportunity.” When I examined where my resistance was coming from - anger, resentment, and disappointment came up. I was mad that this was happening to my body and I wanted to rage – but that didn’t support my health. It was uncomfortable looking at the beliefs and stories attached to these draining emotions. But, once I did my mind finally opened to calling my circumstances a health opportunity, and actually feeling the truth in that. Feeling this truth left me more open to discover that the opportunity in my health circumstances was a call to fully commit to myself - ALL parts of me and to love each one of them.
Now, with my second health opportunity winding its way through my life, I’m allowing myself to again engage in inquiry about what’s going on. What’s the opportunity here? There’s always something. The body holds so much information - it remembers everything on a psychosomatic level – that isn’t necessarily easy to access. Layers can get buried deep in the unconscious. But when we experience a health opportunity it can serve as a messenger, bringing up hidden information and telling us that something is out of balance.
There are so many gifts available when we start relating to the state of our health as a messenger. It’s like a teacher within who is trying to pass us valuable wisdom; we just have to be open and willing to receive – not raging against our circumstances. And for me, it’s not even about the result – it’s not about whether or not this shift in language and perspective will actually eradicate my health circumstances – it’s about but my relationship to my body. When my relationship to my body changes, and I begin to see it as an astonishing vessel, I develop a deep appreciation for it in every moment, which in turn helps me have more presence, and a greater capacity for love with every breath. It’s pretty extraordinary.
Of course, sadness and fear will still come up when my health is not where I’d like it to be– I often feel that – but when I’m focusing on the present moment, I discover a lovely sense of freedom and ability to step out of the sadness and fear – I get to choose how I want to be with myself. Because anything can happen on this wild ride, I don’t want to waste my moments fretting over what could be, I want to figure out how to feel empowered by my health, and all circumstances of my life. A constant recommitment to diving in, feeling the emotions and the willingness to consider positive language shifts is helping.
And you know what? In many ways I feel stronger and more empowered now – in the midst of amble health opportunities – than I’ve ever been. I feel like I’m able to stand tall in my authentic self, own my choices, give myself permission to slow the heck down, and consciously co-create my life. I am showing up differently in every area. My relationship with my husband, my journey as a mother, my role as an entrepreneur and many more – none of it would be in its current state of vibrancy without the changes my health opportunity has offered me.
Because of this health opportunity, and my choice to frame it as such, blessings are showing up on my path. But, beyond what I shared above, there were many additional breadcrumbs that led me to this space. When I or someone I am connected with has an imbalance/dis-ease, there are a few tools that support me to identify the possibilities….
I especially utilized the back of the book where she talks about correlations between specific diseases and conditions, and probable emotional causes. So, I would find my health circumstance, read the probable cause she gave, then sit with it to see if it resonated. If it didn’t resonate I would ask, “What could be the thoughts or emotions in me that created the dis-ease in my body?” I let these thoughts simmer for a while, and something will eventually come up that guides me towards an answer.
Those are my breadcrumbs. What are yours? They might be similar to mine, or totally different. Just start to tune in and allow yourself to listen to the endless, profound wisdom of your body’s messengers. This process isn’t easy, but it’s life changing.
with great humility + gratitude,
P.S. For those who are hearing the call to dissolve their blocks and step more fully into an expansive life of freedom + joy, join us this Wednesday, November 28 at 6 pm pst LIVE via Zoom as we feature Alyssa Nobriga on our Virtual Speaker Series. She is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Leadership Coach. The topic is "Getting Unstuck: Transform Obstacles + Shift out of Limitation." Register here to confirm your spot. This is a COMPLIMENTARY offering. She is also, giving away one spot to her two day "Success + Soul" retreat in Santa Monica for February 2019. See you on the Zoom!
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